Where do you start? Big topic. Huge. Monster.
If I could look inside your head (and don’t worry, we can’t), (if you think we can, see the section on 'Getting A Healthy Head')... back to the topic, if I could see inside your head, I wouldn’t have to look very far before I found great gobs of brain-stuff buzzing on the topic of sex and relationships:

Answers to these questions, and many more will be found lurking in the pages of this website. There’s a lot of stuff here, so bookmark this page so that you can come back here often.

• Do they like me?
• Will I ever get a girlfriend?
• How do I get rid of this girlfriend, so I can have that girlfriend?
• Is everyone having sex?
• Am I gay?
• Will I get pregnant?
• Will condoms really keep me safe?
• What do I do if I don’t want to have sex?
• Will this loneliness ever end?
• How do I get friends?
• Why do I want them to like me anyway?

What are you looking for?
You have to be either very young, very old, very unusual or very dead for sex not to be a big thing in your life. (If you do fall into one of these categories, then please look at other web-sites about knitting, steam trains or stamps).

Sex is not just in bookshops or on the screen.

It's all around you, and it is in you and it affects a huge part of your everyday living. It is part of the way you and the world are wired. You are a sexual being.

Sex is much more than what you do with your genitals
You are not being sexually active just when you’re in bed with someone - you are sexually active in a whole range of interactions. It's part of the fun of being with friends. It's part of the buzz of being in a world with males and females.

With this broader definition of sex, you can see that you are going to have a whole lot of sex in your life, and most of it is going to be with your clothes on.

There are a whole range of options and choices regarding sexuality. Options like:

• How much importance am I going to place on getting a boyfriend or girlfriend?
• How much will I flirt?
• Am I going to use my friend's values, or am I going to set my own?
• How sexual will I be in the way I dress or speak?
• How much of the real me am I going to let people see?
• What will be my standards of sexual behaviour?
• How far will I go?

And many more!

But the choices are yours.

Some of these options can enrich your life incredibly - and others can make you unbelievably miserable.

Some will be easy to make, and others gut-wrenchingly hard. There might be a tonne of pressure on you from your culture, your friends, your boyfriend or girlfriend to make certain decisions. But you can withstand a tonne, even two tonnes, of pressure. With sex, the privilege to decide belongs to you.

What are you looking for? Use this site to do some thinking. Trial run some ideas. Reason through some things it suggests, and have a set of decisions ready to roll before they are needed.